I have a few much older gay friends who are full of wisdom and I quite enjoy their company. Well that doesn't mean you can't befriend them. You mention that some of the gay guys at clubs/bars, were old and ugly. I don't think it's about where you start looking to find these types of people you're searching for but maybe finding inner contentment within yourself to allow yourself to meet people that you are not interested in. The gay scene and dating apps can be extremely painful at the best of times. Without giving away too much, I am also a gay male from Melbourne and I totally understand where you're coming from. But it is actually possible to have intergenerational friendships that are just that, and you can learn a lot from guys who have already been through what you're going through now in a time when things were a lot harder.Ĭreating your own social circles based around things you're interested in and passionate about will bring you into contact with like-minded people, and (statistically speaking!) some of those will be gay. Being creeped on and getting unwanted sexual attention is not acceptable. You're living in a time and are part of a generation that has access to opportunities that gay men before you did not. Sometimes the more you try and make something happen, the less likely it is to actually happen. Try to sit back and be open to the possibilities around you. The process of finding out who you are is going to take some time. It also sounds like you're not short of opportunities to be making friends, but you're turning them down. I can also feel a lot of judgment in your post: you're only interested in a specific 'type', they must be 'straight acting' (not sure what that means, tbh). Hi Alittlebitlost, I can hear that you feel pretty isolated and maybe even feeling some desperation to make connections with guys you feel you can click with. Good luck, hope you find the group you are looking for, its important to have friends that you can trust, who have your back no matter what, and want nothing in return but for you to have theirs too. This isn't a dating app, but rather a place to find people with like minded interests etc, and there are quite a few LGBT groups on there - all stating they are friend/social only - but of course, if things work out. The clubs do encompass all ages, not just 18-29, but it's a start. It lists a number of different clubs available. It is Melbourne's Home of LGBTIQ+ sport and rec. If you are into sport - then google Team Melbourne. I've checked a few of the apps but agree, it seems everyone is just seeking the "here & now" - it'd just be nice to hang out rather than have other expectations. I don't know much about the gay scene - I only came out in May last year and am still trying to work out exactly who I am and what I want. Unless you're one of those really outgoing people that can talk crap to anyone - it can be hard to meet new people. I know everyone’s dealing with their own stuff so cheers for taking the time to help me. Where do you meet young, straight-acting gay guys around my age? Do they even exist? But I don’t know where to start or to look next. This isn’t working, and something I’m doing is the reason it’s not working. I am determined to do something about it. Im not one to dwell or resign to a situation. I have no friends, no romantic prospects and I feel kind of lonely. I went to a gay bar a few times with some girls friends, but it was just lots of old ugly men who wanted me as a sex toy. The other half just wanted to have casual sex with anything right that second. I got hundreds of messages but half were creepy 50/60 year olds. And the very rare time I match with a guy who is my type, the conversation fizzles out because I suck at small talk. I could be friends with fem guys, but unlikely for a relationship. And on top of that, I’m pretty masculine and looking for the same. Honestly, I don’t find most guys attractive because I have a pretty defined type. The main point is: I want to meet some gay people my age to be mates and maybe more. I’m trying to find new friends but that’s besides the point. I mean, there’s people who like me and ask me to hang out, but I don’t feel like I belong. I also don’t have any good friends anymore, just acquaintances. I went to a moderately-conservative all boys school and I don’t know any gay people. Where are straight-acting gay guys 18-29 in Melbourne?